Regaining Control: How To Reach Your Goals

There’s been a lot of things going on recently in my life. From turning 21, to dealing with the last handful of university deadlines as well as the usual trying-to-keep-on-top-of-life stuff it’s safe to say that things have taken a toll a little bit.

Last week was a total write off. If you know me personally, you know this is something I say basically every week- but this time it was for real. I was poorly and generally lacked all motivation to get my shit together.

But over the past few days I’ve been reconsidering my goals and attempting to make new ones. I’m constantly working on transforming my mindset and becoming more positive, in order to be more productive. I am generally aiming to be a better and happier me.

So I thought I’d share some simple steps that I am taking to help you and I reach our goals and how to get back on track when things have slowed down:

  • Make your to-do list the night before

Literally write every single thing down that you need to get done, either for the next day or for the following week. I’m talking the obvious stuff, like assignments and work bits, but also things like chores, calling your parents, doing a face mask, making dinner and so on. Although the list may look a little intimidating at first, once you start doing the basic stuff and ticking off your progress you’re going to feel more motivated to tackle the bigger things.

Plus, by writing things down and getting them out of your head means you’re going to have more room in there, which will come in handy when dealing with said tasks!

  • Figure out why 

Why is it you want to do all of these things? Why do you feel like you’ve lost control? Take some time to either write it down or talk about the reasons why you suddenly want to change your routine, work harder, exercise or whatever it is your planning on doing.

By figuring out the ultimate motive behind your work (to feel accomplished, to feel better) you’re going to find it easier to actually do the thing. Working out what you want and more specifically why you want it, gives you something to turn to when you’re needing inspiration or motivation. It should get your excited about your progress and make you feel like you’re doing the right thing. If it doesn’t, then maybe you should reconsider your goals.

  • Start early

It’s a new week, which means a new start. So why don’t you start now? But don’t use the fact you’ve missed the beginning of the week to let the rest go to waste. You can literally make changes whenever you want, but I’d suggest starting early to give yourself a head-start.

I know that not everyone is a morning person, and that’s totally cool (you do you) so you don’t have to take this literally. Early here doesn’t have to mean early in the morning, but rather as early as possible in your own routine. Instead of wasting time procrastinating or thinking about all of the things you need to do, just force yourself to get on with it as soon as possible. It’ll make the world of difference and once you’ve started you’ll realise it’s easier to just keep going!

  • Get inspired

Without comparing yourself, look to other people to see how they’re getting on and use it to fuel your own work. I have some links in the end of this post that have helped me but try to use other people’s advice, stories and experiences to push you to make the most of yours. Look for inspirational quotes, YouTube videos on how-to or even look to your friends and see how they do it.

You’ll notice everyone has their own struggles and everyone is just trying to get on with things the best they can.

  • Break it up

Like I mentioned previously, it’s easy to get overwhelmed when you have a huge list of things to do. If you break everything up into manageable chunks, it’ll not only make the task easier to start but also easier to finish as  your progress will be clearer to see this way.

For example, if you have an essay to write instead of just writing down ‘do essay’ break it up into separate tasks. So that could be ‘get books from library’, ‘research this area on the internet’, ‘write introduction’ and so on. Once you start ticking off tasks and getting somewhere with your goal, you’re more likely to feel motivated to get it done. Or you’ll at least feel pleased with your progress which will encourage you with other tasks.

  • Do it your own way

It’s all well and good me offering you advice on how to reach your goals and complete that to-do list, but I know that what works for me mightn’t work for you. We’re all different and we all have our own way of doing things. And while I do think the advice in this post may help (or at least encourage you), you may need to tailor things to suit your circumstances.

A simple example of this is to-do lists. I have to admit, I am someone that can appreciate a to do list. But I prefer to keep my simple, handwritten and often on a post-it that can be thrown away when everything is done. Some people like to make theirs online, in bullet journals, on their phone or some people don’t like to make them at all and can keep track of everything in their head (if this is you, I totally salute you!).

What I’m trying to say is you know yourself best, and although it can sometimes feel like you’re not doing things right because your progress doesn’t look like anyone else’s, you should make something that works for you. Don’t compare yourself with anyone else and make sure you’re doing the best for you to reach your goals.


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Speak soon,

Rachael.

 

 

Feel-Good Female Reads for Mother’s Day

It’s Sunday once again and I’m back with another bookish post. In honour of mother’s day and celebrating the wonderful women in our lives, I’m here with three books written by women for (mostly) women that are sure to make you feel good.

HOW TO BE A WOMAN: Caitlin Moran

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71iZ9y2pBzL.jpgI owe a lot to this book. It taught me not only how to accept and be proud of myself but also how to embrace my gender and, crucially, what feminism is. It’s a touchy subject for some people but it doesn’t have to be. Caitlin is such a funny, honest and open writer and this book will make you laugh in that ‘thank God it’s not just me’ way. She makes everything we fear as women approachable and normal and opens up so many wonderful discussions. I recommend this book to anyone and everyone.

 

EAT PRAY LOVE: Elizabeth Gilbert

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If you’ve seen a couple of my previous posts you might have guessed that I recently read Elizabeth Gilbert’s newest book Big Magic and have become totally obsessed with it and her. Eat Pray Love is of course her most famous work and I’m sure we’ve all heard of it before. It’s the story of Elizabeth rediscovering herself through travel, after the breakdown of her marriage. Although I didn’t love this as much as Big Magic, Elizabeth has such a soothing voice that you can just feel through the paper and she opens up some really interesting discussions about marriage and self-worth. Overall this is just a very reassuring book that proves that no matter what happens, things will work out in the end.

 

IS IT JUST ME?: Miranda Hart

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If you’re familiar with this comedian and her BBC sitcom, Miranda than I’m sure you’ve already read this. In true Miranda style, this book is this wonderful woman’s ‘guide to life’. Using personal anecdotes that feel very similar to her skits on her show, Miranda discuss everything from social awkwardness to marriage, babies and so on. This one is kind of specific to fans of Miranda due to her very specific style. If you don’t like her comedy, you won’t like this so don’t bother. But if you need a little pick up, this book is sure to cheer you up again.

 

I hope you all have a wonderful day and make sure to do something lovely for the wonderful women in your life.

Speak soon,

Rachael.

**Disclaimer: Affiliate links are used. Buy purchasing through these links, I will receive a small percentage as commission. So not only will you get an awesome book but you’ll be helping a student out too!

Five Books You Might Not Have Read

The other week I was at home and sorting out one of the many boxes of books I have there, when I stumbled across a few gems that I thought would be interesting to share with you today. If you’re like me, then you’re always looking for something new to read. Hopefully these may catch your eye!

Witch Light: Susan Fletcher

I remembering feeling apprehensive about this book and I think it took me a little while to get into it, but after that I was hooked. Set in 1692, this book is based on the lore surrounding a young girl, Corrag, who is imprisoned as a witch for her involvement in the Massacre of Glencoe. In her cold and dirty cell she is visited by Charles Leslie, a young Irishman, who questions her about what happened. But Corrag won’t give him what he wants until he listens to her story.

This is such a stunning book and Fletcher’s descriptions of the Scottish Highlands are so beautiful, it’s made me desperate to visit them. A great, atmospheric story that just immerses you into such a different world to your own.

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The Lost Art of Keeping Secrets: Eva Rice

I loved this book for such a long time when I was about fourteen and reread it various times. Set in the aftermath of World War II and the early beginning of rock ‘n’ roll, this story follows teenager Penelope who lives with her mother and brother in a huge, crumbling mansion. Penelope is desperate to fall in love and when she is introduced to a Charlotte, a girl with a life so different to her own, this dream seems to be coming closer to a reality.

A light hearted, fun and eccentric story that is basically a slightly more modern retelling of I Capture the Castle, I recommend this if you’re looking for some light escapism.

The Universe Versus Alex Woods: Gavin Extence

This is one of the only books I have ever shed a tear at but that’s not to say it’s all a tragedy.  Alex Woods has a very unconventional l life. Living with a single clairvoyant mother and having a mild bout of fame for a very unusual accident, Alex doesn’t really have any friends. That is until he meets Mr Peterson, the bad tempered widow down the road and an amazing journey begins.

The books starts when Alex is stopped at Dover customs with 113 grams of marijuana, an urn full of ashes on the passenger seat and an entire nation in uproar. Safe to say, this is a book like no other. A funny, warm hearted story about friendship and making the most out of the time you have, this book has stayed with me in more ways than one.

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Beautiful Stranger: Hope Donahue

**Trigger Warning: This book deals heavily with body image issues, body modification and other issues***

This is the only non-fiction book on this list, but it’s another one that has stuck with me since I first read it and it’s so interesting. This memoir is about Hope’s ‘obsession with perfection’ and her endeavours into countless cosmetic surgery procedures. The story also goes into her doomed love life, her odd obsessive-crush on her surgeon and other issues.

Probably triggering for some people and there are descriptions of surgical procedures, so please don’t read if it doesn’t sound like your kind of thing. I however am both fascinated and concerned with cosmetic surgery so this was a sad but interesting insight into that murky world for me.

Innocent Traitor: Alison Weir

This was actually a recommendation from my mam, as she loves historical fiction and for as long as I can remember has been obsessed with the Tudors and events around that time. This book is the story of Lady Jane Grey, who was the Queen of England for nine days. The book covers Jane’s relationship with her future successors Queen Mary and Queen Elizabeth I and goes through her unwanted marriage and ends, like she did, on the block.

A tragic but deeply fascinating insight into a story I wasn’t even really aware of before I read this. I think historical fiction is a great way to learn about the things school didn’t teach us or didn’t explain too well.

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Are you planning on reading any of these books? Do you have any recommendations?

I hope you have a wonderful week.

Speak soon,

Rachael.