Sexism, Exploitation and Memes

I wonder how many memes there are on the internet?

They’re something we all see pretty much every time we log onto a social media site. That black and white lettering that protests some sarcastic message has basically become iconic now and will forever be recognised.

Memes are a way for people to rant, to express their opinions or just to make a joke in a quick and fashionable way and overall I think they’re pretty funny. There’s no better way to procrastinate than looking at a photo of a stupid dog with a sarcastic message printed over it.

But I wonder how many memes out there mock women? I bet most of them degrade or ridicule feminism and the actions of women in some way. Although these memes aren’t as cool as a dog wanting cupcakes or a cat with a moustache, they seem to be the most popular ones and the ones that are constantly being shared.

Obviously this is something I don’t like. But I don’t think it’s a problem to be blamed solely on the sharers, as most of these people don’t really know what they’re mocking anyway.

Recently I saw a meme which inspired this whole post. This meme basically said that women complain about men complimenting them or looking at them, but will continue to wear little clothing or present themselves in a sexual manner.

(Because obviously these actions are all just an act to attract men, right?)

The meme was basically saying “why are you complaining, woman? You obviously want this”

Now if I close my mind, I can almost see why some people would find this ironic. But it doesn’t take long for the stupidity (and a bit of fear) to come flooding back in.

People seem to think that if women want to be taken seriously, then they can’t dress in a certain way. For these people, women must not appear sexual in anyway and cover all parts of their body because, God forbid, should we see some cleavage then there’s no way we can concentrate on what these lasses are actually saying, right?

It makes me sad that some people still genuinely believe that clothing (or performances or whatever) has any impact on your rights to be taken seriously or to be heard.

As for the degrading comment…

The reason why a woman choosing, for example, to wear shorts that may reveal her vulva is not degrading is because she chose to wear them. She chose to reveal whatever part of her body she wanted and because it’s her body and her choice, this is not degrading. If you want to label it anything I’d go for empowering.

Everyone has a right to control their own bodies. And if that means they want to be sexual then let them. The problems occur when other people think they have the right to sexualise something that is not theirs. That’s why people speak out about adverts, films, posters or comments that use women’s bodies in a sexual way because the power has been taken away from the person who owns the body and given to someone outside of it.

The whole point of feminism is that people a choice, regardless of their gender. Women, like men, can freely express their sexuality if they want to. But it’s down to them to choose if that’s something they want to do. It shouldn’t be something that other people can choose for you.

Men are, of course, not excluded from this. How many washboard abs and toned physiques have you seen to promote, sell or generally just grab attention in the media recently? There’s tonnes, I know. But the reason we talk about women so much when we deal with topics like this is because it happens to us more. Plus, because it’s deemed acceptable to treat women this way we then start to do the same things to men.

It’s just not fair for anyone and it’s creating such a shitty situation.

Can’t we just let people do what they want, whether that be in fashion or sex or just life, and not feel the need to comment, judge or ridicule? Let’s be fair to one another and if you see something shitty report it and try to educate those who don’t understand why it’s wrong.

And before you ask, yes I can take a joke. I just prefer my jokes to have more humour than spite.


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Speak soon,

Rachael.


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The Scrooge Guide: Reasons To be Happy This Festive Season 

There’s no escaping Christmas now, no matter how hard you try. This is a wonderful time of the year but it’s not everyone’s cup of tea. And I get that.

Christmas can be a magical and fun time, if you celebrate it. But for some it’s just another month in the year. This post is for you. It’s also for you if you love Christmas, of course, because I’m guessing any mention of it has you practically buzzing with excitement.

Whether you like Christmas or not, or even if you don’t celebrate it so can’t relate to all this festive cheer, here are some reasons to be happy this festive season:

  • It’s now totally acceptable to stay indoors and choose chocolate over socialising
  • People don’t question the amount of hot drinks you consume in a day.
  • Wearing a onesie at any time in the day because it’s too cold to wear anything else.
  • Seeing the sky change into magical colours as the sun rises too late and sets too early.  Yes we have less sun in this season, but look how pretty that sky is!
  • Fairy lights
  • Party food. Mini cheeseburger anyone?
  • Your usually boring town or city is transformed into a magical, winter kingdom
  • Chocolate and cheese are the only courses you need
  • Going for walks all wrapped up but still returning with a nose Rudolph would be proud of
  • It’s totally okay to eat chocolate first thing in the morning
  • Oversized jumpers and chunky boots are trendy and everywhere once again
  • Christmas markets.  Yes they’re super festive but the food!

As you can see, my favourite thing about this season is the food! What do you like most about this time if the year?

Speak soon,

Rachael

Things I’ve Been Loving: November

Okay so I know I’ve just posted a monthly, wrap-up style post (if you missed that then you can check it out here) but November’s been a busy month for me and I have more things to say!

This time round I want to focus on the small products that have kept me going and made me happy this month.

Wild World: Bastille 

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As you might have seen in my last post, I was lucky enough to see Bastille in concert in November. This is a band that I have loved for years but prior to the concert, I wasn’t too fussed about their latest album. Now however after hearing it live and listening to the stories behind each track, I am OBSESSED. This album is fantastic and so relevant to what’s going on in the world right now. If you ever feel unsure, lost or a bit scared about what you see on the news then you need this album in your life.

Shiny, Patent Boots

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I bought these boots this month in what was a very cheeky purchase but I’m so glad I did! They’re something a little different to what I’d normally wear (I mean, they’re shiny!) but I love the way they look. I feel like they make any outfit look more put together, which makes me feel like less of a mess on a daily basis. Ha! They were a bargain at £12 from Primark and I can see me wearing these all throughout this season and beyond.

Hooped Earrings

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I don’t know who I think I am or who I’m trying to be, but this month I’ve been loving wearing hoop earrings. I feel like they add a ‘trendy’ vibe to any outfit and fit in well with this obsession everyone seems to have with the 90s. Not sure if it’s something that suits me, but they’ve made me tragically happy this month.

Fairy Lights

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Another Primark product! These beautiful fairy light, lanterns are from the VelvetGhost range in Primark and I love them. They look so cute in my university room and having fairy lights on is making me feel all festive.

False Nails

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I’ve been experimenting with loads of different false nails this month and I’ve been having so much fun. My own nails don’t grow very long and tend to break easy. But having pretty, even nails is such a boost for my self-esteem so I thought I’d finally try false ones. These particular ones from Elegant Touch are my favourite and I got so many compliments on them. They lasted quite well and look so natural.

What have you been loving this month?

Speak soon,

Rachael.